heated shady situation at a shame stories show (story time)

sometimes you have to snap out cause what's up???? 

live vicariously through my story time 

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I just came back from my morning walk and I am feeling great. There's something about waking up early. I'm a morning person, you know? And to the people who don't like morning people, you I know you wanna be as you wanna be as so bad. Like I feel like if somebody doesn't like a morning person, they just wish they were a morning person. Or they just okay, maybe they don't wish. Maybe they're just like, hmm, oh, just because you think you're a morning person, you think you're better than me. No, I know that's how we look. I know that's how listen. I am gonna take this on behalf of all morning people. I know we look like we think we are better than you, but we don't. Like it's just I just love the morning. I don't know what to say. Uh, I am feeling very great. So I wanna talk about a bunch of things that I experienced this week and things that I just saw. So, actually, not this week, last night, and I have some thoughts on things. So, last night I went to this show at the theater. Uh, it's called Shame on You. So it's done by uh a couple from Switzerland, and it's about shame. I was excited. I found out about this show last week, and when it was mentioned, I immediately put it on my calendar because that's what I do, and I remember it was like oh Sunday, 7 p.m. And I am in some group chats, and they sent it in the in some group chats, and I was like, Okay, I'm gonna go to this show. So I went yesterday to this show. So these so this couple, a man and a woman, so they they're there, but because it's like it's Poland and they want the people who speak Polish to also understand the show. They also had the director of the theater in the like translating from the from English to Polish. So they had like these papers, they have so they have this huge archive of people's shame. Like, think of Reddit stories, but it's about shame. Like they've collected them because they're on tour now, they're doing a tour in Poland, and so they had a stop in my city, Lublin, yesterday, and that's when I went to see them. And so they've been going on tour for a long time, and they have a huge archive of people, people's like shame stories. Some some places where they go, they even have like installations and they do these shame stories. Now, I am gonna give credit to to these artists. Uh, okay, I took a photo, let's go to their website. Go to www.scha-md.ch. That is www.sch.ch. It's their website. You can submit your own little shame story, you can tell them. Uh, and I think it's I think it was a very good show because shame is a very underexplored emotion. People don't really talk about shameful things because they're shameful. And uh, it's insane. Uh the feelings I went through when I was doing this show. Now, before I did this show, I was kind of thinking, uh, I was like, maybe it's gonna be one of those like very artistic shows about shame, those kind, those shows where like it's really good, but then like uh if you go to like three or four of such shows in a day, you're gonna like get uh a panic attack because because they're just so like out-of-body experiences. That's what I was having in mind, and I thought it was gonna be like very like heavy with like themes and sensitive and this and that. I thought it was gonna be like a whole production. I mean, in the poster, it was just two people, but I had a different thing in mind. But then I remember reading about these artists, and they were musicians and they had toured before, and now they work in Switzerland and they're like living on this because I think their city is supporting them. I think it's Zurich. Yeah, the city is supporting them, and like that's their job, and even this whole tour is supported by their city, which is really great. You know, when you get to be artistic and creative, and then you like have this backbone of support. I wish more countries did that. Anyway, so I went to this show. I remember reading about them, and then they said that oh, it's gonna be engaging, this and that. I didn't look at the photos because I wanted to kind of get shocked by this experience and by this experience, and I was a little bit late to the show, so I took an Uber, something that I always do. Uh, not the late part, the the Uber part. I just love, I just love the experience of sitting in a car and immediately being where I want to be. Like, listen, if there is a company that I want to work with is Uber. I love Uber. I can't even like begin to explain to you the love I have for Uber. I just love it. Like, to me, it's like in a fraction of a second, a car is gonna be here to pick me up and take me to where I wanna go. And I won't sweat, I won't have to find the bus stop, I won't have to uh stand, I won't have to like wonder if I should sit next to that old woman or if she wants her own space. No, I won't have to wonder about all these things. I will get in the car, and the list of my problems is very short when I'm in an Uber. Because if it stinks, I'm gonna be like, can I open the window? And I usually say that just to let them know that, like, hey, you need a little bit of flashing out of this air. And I I always wanted to say this, and I'm gonna say it. Almost every time I get a red car, nine out of ten times that car is gonna be stinking. Nine, I'm not even kidding. There's something about red cars, anyways. And I love I love like when I'm late and I make my Uber driver rush, I'm like, I'm a little bit late, can we rush? When I do that and they actually rush and I get there on time, I usually tip them, and I love that. And tipping culture is not very common in Europe as it is in the US, so I think it's usually like a nice little surprise for them, and it's it's nice, and so I took an Uber, I went there. Oh my god, this reminds me of one time I was late to to class, and it was one of those professors who is like, if you're late 15 minutes late, you won't get in my class, but if they are late 15 minutes, we wait. It was this professor, and so I was like, you know what? I'm gonna take an Uber, and it's Monday. Oh my god, the last thing you wanna do is take an Uber on a Monday morning because guess what? Everybody's late on a Monday morning, everyone, and the Uber prices are high. I took this expensive Uber and the Uber came, and it was this old man. Oh my god, first of all, arrival time. I was like, this arrival time itself leaves me with like a few minutes to make it to this class. Mind you, I am aiming to like the 15 minutes after the class starts. I'm aiming to be like, because you can't come after the 15 minutes. Sometimes there's like there's like lucky people who get in, but then most of the people usually don't get in. This was last semester. He can embarrass you in front of everyone and be like, get out. I know it's kind of rude to be late, but then also it's like he gets late sometimes, and it's like we wait. I mean, he's a very harsh professor to the point like if he's like 17 minutes late, you don't have the confidence to be like, I'm gonna leave because it's past 15 minutes. Because if you do that and he finds out, you're gonna have a wild ride for the rest of the semester. And so I got this Uber. Mind you, it's expensive. I could have stayed at home. I woke up late, I didn't even like read my devotion and like spend my time with God in the morning. I didn't. I took this Uber and I tell this old man, I'm like, hey, I'm like a little bit late. Can we like pick up the pace? Oh, mind you, I was so nice. I just started speaking, and he was like, No. He was like, No, I don't I don't speak English. And so I wrote in the translator. Mind you, his car was like not even good, it was like one of those old rundown beat up cars. And so I write it on my Google Translate, and I am like, Yeah, I'm showing it to him, and he goes, mm-mm, no, no, no. And I'm like, uh, okay, like, what am I supposed to do? And I remember I vlogged this, it's on my YouTube, and I sat at the back of the car and I just waited, and I was like, he was letting people pass. Like, he was being extra kind that that morning. He was like, Listen, I am gonna show you why you should never be late. And so he he was letting people pass, and I was just seated in that car and the 15 minutes passed, and I was like, very late. By the time I got to class, I was like, what am I doing here? You might as well just take me back home. And I uh, but you know what? I went to the cafeteria, I had breakfast, I waited for my friends to come out of the class to ask them how it was. And on this particular day, many people were late. And I was like, Yeah, the one day I'm late is the one day everybody decides to also be late, so that okay, actually, it's not the one day. And but it's a day, it's it's the day that everybody decides to be late, which is not good because if many people are late and many people are not in class, he notices it. Mind you, this is a professor who can who gives you something to study for like the next class, which I never do, but anyways, and then he asks questions in class, and if you can't answer them, he whips out papers. Actually, he doesn't whips out whip out papers, we find our own papers, which is weird. Like in in in Tanzania, they give us papers for exams, but here we find our own papers, and like we are collecting our exams, and like it's so shabby. And I'm like, this this this guy has like this huge paper, this other guy has this paper with lines. This somebody has a card paper, somebody has a small paper. I am using a paper with boxed lines, like the mathematics paper for like kindergarten students, and we we all just submitted, and I'm like, this is so shabby. This could never, this could never happen in an African school, which is ironic, because they like Europe has more resources than us. But anyways, it's not a big deal. It kinda, it kinda makes me like be like, okay, the exam is not that serious. By the way, there's like dogs backing outside. I don't know if you can hear, but like they are like, Oh, you're recording an episode. Guess what? We're gonna be fighting for the next uh 30 minutes. Um, anyways, and so yeah. Uh so back to the story. I took an Uber, I went there to the show, I got there, it's like the the so the the woman, she's like tall, and when she started speaking, I thought it was an Irish accent. Maybe because I've been reading a lot of like, anyways, never mind. When she started speaking, I thought it was like an Irish accent, but then I was like, okay, it's not an Irish accent because I later found out that she grew up in Switzerland, and so the woman has this like uh record player. I don't know if I should call it a gramophone. I don't know what's the difference between a gramophone and uh a just a vin vine vine? Oh my, I'm gonna google the pronunciation. Vine. Oh, it's called a phonograph. Oh yeah, a phonograph record or a va I need to understand how to pronounce this word. Vin vinyl. Vinyl. Okay, it's pronounced vinyl. So he has this phonograph record, or he has a vinyl vinyl, he has a vinyl. No, she has a vinyl record player. Okay, vinyl. She has a vinyl record player, and she's like playing music, and this guy is singing, he goes, like, I'm gonna sing a song. So he sings. Okay, maybe she didn't explain too much because these people are going on tour, and me explaining too much is kind of like taking away like the experience. But wait, I'm I'm I think I'm allowed to share my experience anyway. So he she has this vinyl record plan, she has this vinyl, she plays them while the guy is singing, and then there's she he they call a member of the audience to have like these papers, kind of like the translation of the song, and like this person has to move verse by verse as this person is as the man is singing, and then after that, they read a bunch of shame stories, and then it's like other songs, and I don't want to give away too much of the performance because I think people should go see them, anyways. So, so like the whole point is like they're reading these shame stories, and they're reading them in Polish and in English, so and it's not the same stories, so I can't understand Polish, so I was waiting for the English stories, and it was very oh my god, it was very I was I was going through like the six stages of grief and more during this show. I was like, what? Because like I remember at one point there's this one story about this guy. The story starts with like my underage girlfriend and I blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah, and then this guy goes on to do like some weird things. I can't tell the stories because I had a conversation with them after the show, and because I had a conversation with them after the show, and they were like, We will send you some of these stories because you didn't get to hear much of them. Give us your email on our website and we'll send you these stories, but promise us that you won't do anything with them, you won't share them, you won't do anything. And I was like, Yeah, I won't. Because like they're doing a show. This is almost like leaking an album, an artist's album before it's out. You know, uh, I don't want to take away that experience from them. Like, you need to go see them. You need to go see them or buy their book, go on their website, they have a book, buy it. And so I can't share these stories. And I remember when I was watching the show, I was like, wouldn't it be so cool? Because like they would read and they would throw the papers on the ground. I was like, wouldn't it be so cool if they let me? I knew I already knew this couldn't happen, but I was like, wouldn't it be so cool if they let me take those papers and then come on the podcast, read the shame stories and react to them? Because I am I am a big reactor. Like if I'm watching a movie, I'm reacting, and everybody around me is like laughing. And I was like reacting to all these stories. I was like, what? Like the story about the underage girlfriend. I was like, wait, I know this is the shame story, but like, why? Like this person, whoever wrote this story, had no inch of like what I'm doing is wrong. Because like the story proceeds, and it's like he like gets mad at like somebody else in an issue that involves it, and I'm like, what? This is not right. I'm like, why do you have an underage girlfriend? Why? Why? And why are you talking about it as if it's like uh like it's like some regular story? I you know, and I oh my god, and then I had this other story, and uh, I can't really say what it is because it's like it's like the pinnacle of the show. The story is like by the guy himself who is like doing the show, and it's about like living in like shared spaces, and it made me so grateful. I was like, I am so grateful that I never got to experience what this man shared. And at this, somebody's calling me. Oh, my mom is calling me. Hello? Yeah, I just told my mom I'm recording, and so okay, I can't say much about the show, but what I will say is I was seated next to this woman. Now, let me tell let me tell you about the woman that was seated next to me. First of all, she is wearing one of the chicest outfits, which I found out that her outfit is so chic because she stood up to go and like hold the subtitles, the translated subtitles for like the song, which I think is really cool that they had this because like most people usually don't care if you don't understand the song, but they really wanted people to get the message. And so she went and she was wearing like this like brown, maroon-ish outfit. Like, just imagine if brown and maroon had a baby, that's the colour of the full outfit. The shoes, but like they're they're all like they're like some places, like for example, the shoes, some places the brown was a little bit concentrated than the than the maroonish mixture, and she has like this the crow a trouser with like the same color, and she has this like brown long necklace situation that is like hanging, and she has she has like a brown belt, everything else is like a mixture of like brown and maroon, like that colour. If brown and maroon had a baby, and she has, mind you, I never remember people's outfits, but I remember this one. She has this brown belt, and it's like it's like tucked in a little bit that you can see the belt, but it's also perfectly hanging on the back. This like uh sweater situation, it was so chic. But she also wears glasses and she has short hair, and she's like, uh she kind of looks like she used to be a model, but like she's not very tall. That's how she looks like, but then she's like, Oh, they I I tried, she looks like she tried modeling once for a year and made a lot of money, and then like just left because she loves stability. Uh and then she doesn't smile, she does not smile. Uh, let me tell you, because like they get they also gave us papers, and we were all reading like the shames that was on those papers, and I I read mine because like everyone was reading it in Polish. I read mine in Polish with a very bad, very, very bad reading. I was like, I was like, oh my god, I if these people understand, I mean they did understand at the end and they laughed, which I can't tell if they were laughing at me or they were laughing with me or they were laughing at the shame story. And okay, she's the type of woman to be like uh the uh there's this other guy who was sitting next to me who also doesn't speak Polish. So he read his story in English. I think it was after like after I did mine, because like I started my story by saying I don't speak Polish in Polish, which is the only thing I can say because I've been saying it all my life. And this guy goes, like, I also he says it in English. He goes, like, I also can't speak Polish. So they go, like, you can read it in English, you can read it in English, and he reads his story in English. This woman is the type of woman to be like, Can I have the paper? I want to know what it says in Polish. And like she's sitting next to me. Mind you, like, I'm not judging this woman. I am just uh I'm just sharing my experience because I thought I thought it was very interesting uh how I could like observe her from like a distance, and all my suspicions were kind of right, which I'm not saying is the right thing. We should not judge people by just looking at them, but I just I was just having so much fun observing this woman. And uh because she did that, I was like, I also wanted to know because I I had like the the Polish shameful stories were being read more than the English ones, and I was kind of like hungry for the stories. I was like, I need I need like to to hear more, and so she she kept her paper the there was a chair, there was an empty chair between me and this woman because we were sitting in like this semi-psycho situation, and the artists are in the middle, and she kept her paper on the empty chair, and I was like trying to read, like you know, I was like bending my head a little bit trying to read what is on her paper, and she saw me do that. She didn't even try to like move the paper to me and be like, hey, yeah, like here you go, like read it, you know. She was just like, mind you, she does not smile. I'm not even kidding. She does not smile, and it's not that she does not smile in a way that's like she's uh putting on a face where like she's like she looks unapproachable. No, she's like a mixture of like uh okay, if these two feelings had a baby, she's Kind of like her face is kind of like, What is going on? Like, pick up the pace, I don't have time. But then also, her feeling is also like, I am invested in what is going on, but then she's invested in what is going on in a way that's like uh uh okay, in a way that's like if there were two kindergarten teachers and they hate each other and they talk about each other behind each other's backs, but then it's like this lady is like the teacher who's like I hate her, and she hates like a nice teacher. Uh, and this nice teacher knows that she hates her, and if she was to sit there and listen to this nice teacher teach the kids, and she's kind of like having that face where it's like, oh my god, like I don't like her, and like I I I could teach circles around her. That was like the vibe. That was like the vibe that I was getting from this woman. And and at one point, they were like looking for somebody to go and volunteer to hold the uh the papers because they were like these huge papers with words on them, and like you move with them, like kind of like subtitles. And I was trying to volunteer, and she was also trying to volunteer, and she stood up and she was like, Me, me, and the way she was like saying me, me, it was in a way that's like, I don't care. I don't care if there is anyone else who wants this. I want it. You know, like people always try to like be nice about it and be like, go, go, go, you, you, and she was like, I want it, and she stood up immediately and she went, she took the papers. Mind you, she's not smiling because people smile about this, they're like, Yay, like, thank you so much for giving me this chance. No, she took the papers and she was like standing there, kind of like, let's get into it. And then the song started playing, and she's like moving the papers, and she's like throwing them down, like in this way. That's like, and I was like, you know what? I'll give it to you. Your outfit is cool, but I don't like your attitude. But, anyways, so that was the woman that was seated next to me. Uh yeah, like she was not doing anything with like emotion on her face, she was kind of doing anything for she was kind of doing things from a point of like, oh, please. She looks perfect example. She looks like the woman who would report a neighbor, a neighbor's dog. If a neighbor's dog uh like was roaming around, she's the woman to call, to call like the administration or whatever they have in like towns or whatever. They she's the woman to call and be like so and source dog is always roaming around. She looks like she could snitch on everything and still don't care. And like she would keep doing it and know that people hate her for it and hate her because she's mean, but she would keep doing it. Oh my god, by the way, I am not saying that what I'm doing is right, it's not right, but I know it's like kind of like judging, but actually, it is judging. But I am just trying to give you uh the picture of like this woman who was like seated next to me, and it was so interesting for me to observe and kind of like do all this characterization. I am not saying that she does these things, but I am saying like uh I guess it's the storyteller in me. What I'm saying is like if I was to put this woman in a role, I would put her in that role. So I'm not like I'm not, I don't hate this woman. She was nice. At the end, she smiled. I I I she had her bag on the chair, and I wanted to put my bag on the chair also. And I I was trying to, and she was like, Yeah, yeah, go ahead, put it so she was nice, you see. So the lesson here is like, don't judge people on just by looking at them and being like, oh my god, she's mean, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. No, you know, and like give people chances. I mean, even if somebody looks mean, give them a chance. Because I still did give her a chance to be like, I want to put my back here with you. And she was like, Yay, put it. So that was the lesson. Now, going ahead with this show, we finished the show and they were like, Oh, does anybody want to give like a word? Does anybody want to say something? Now, usually in these situations, I sometimes I feel like I need, like, I feel like it's my responsibility to say something because I have a way to articulate my thoughts and say exactly what I want to say, which is something most people do not have. But then also, anytime I am with a group of people and they're like looking for somebody to say something, everybody usually gives me the eye of like, hey, say something, say something. And mind you, most of the situations, I'm usually not the group leader in groups. I usually am like, listen, I wanna give you my ideas. I wanna come up with the idea. I wanna tell you guys what we should do and how we should do it, and give you like pop culture references around it. I am here to make this fun. I feel like that's my role. And I I usually don't gravitate towards being the group leader. I would rather be like the cool fun guy in the group who's like, this is so whatever. And then I give you like a pop culture reference. And so most of the times, even though there's a group leader, people usually like want me to say they give me like, hey, say something. You always have something to say. I mean, I have a podcast, come on. And so uh I was like, the theater director was not giving me, because like we know each other, and she was she was not giving me the look of like uh say something, but I was like, I was like, in a couple minutes, she's gonna give me the look of like Nick, the look of kind of like, are you sure you don't have something to say? But it's kind of like say something that, and so I usually feel like I need to, but yesterday I was kind of like, you know what, maybe I won't say something today. This was a great show because, like, in the middle of the show, I was reminded of a shame around something. Because like the more people share stories, the more you like by hearing other people's stories, which is why storytelling is very important. Uh, by the way, the first page in Michael Jackson's book, Moonwalk, the first, I'm not even kidding, the first few lines are about storytelling. And she he says, like, there are very few books written on the art of storytelling, and he talks about storytelling, and I love it. I highlighted it. You should read that book. Uh, anyways, so guess what happens? Guess what happens? So, this woman who is sitting at the front, she I'm I'm not even kidding, I could not believe my eyes. That was the one time where I was like, I allow myself to react uh with facial expressions. If there was a camera at this event, actually, there was a camera, but like if if there was a shady cameraman at this event, they would have immediately panned to me to see my facial expressions when this woman was talking. So she this woman is like, she raises her hand because they're like, if you want to say something nice to the artist, if you want to say something about the show or whatever to the artist. This woman, there is silence, and like people are not really like people are not really wanting to say something about the show because it's kind of like intense a little bit. You're like, at some point of the show, they were like, if if you're uncomfortable, if there's something you you don't want to hear, say something. And there was this woman who was like, Hey, can we not say anything about animals? And they were like, Okay, great. So they didn't say anything about animals, and judging by the way the man reacted and was like, okay, I uh I was like, I could already tell that there was nothing about animals in this show, and so it's kind of intense. Uh, mind you, I didn't want to say something. I have a podcast, but I didn't want to say something then because I was thinking about my shames. I was like, oh, what's something I'm shame, shame, I am ashamed of, or what is something that I feel shame when I'm when like it happens. And I remembered something, and I was like, okay, it's getting intense. So I was kind of in my feelings a little bit, and so which is great, artists are supposed to bring out such things in people, and so this woman says, I have a question, and the the the they're like, okay, go ahead. She's speaking in English, uh, by the way, big mistake, because like I wish she said this in Polish. Because you will understand why I'm saying big mistake as I go on with this story. She says it in English, which means I can understand everything and I can react in real time. Because I am so quick with things. I am I am I am so quick with things, and she goes, um uh so she points to the woman and the woman who has the the vinyl record player, and she goes, like, uh what that thing that you were playing with, like the records, or because like when they were playing, I'm gonna take you back to me. When they were playing the songs, there were like some sounds that were like uh in the middle of this record. So like they would sing and then they would have like this like pause, not pause, like in the middle of the song, there would be like this background sounds, or there would be like as a segment where there's just sounds. Like at one point there was this woman who was like screaming, screaming, and like there was this other point where there was like this other sounds of like uh a bunch of different sounds. Sometimes it sounds like uh something you would hear in like a horror movie, sometimes it sounds like something like I'm not, I'm not, I don't think you're really getting, but like there were some sounds which are part of the performance. And this woman goes, like, that thing you were doing with the vinyl record player, that thing you were doing, because like she's like scratching the record and like she's like, you know, she's doing whatever. She's like doing something and it's like causing some sounds, and she goes, like, that thing that you were doing, like I don't really understand. Uh, I don't really understand why you are doing that. Uh huh. This moment, I'm like, what? Like, what do you mean you you are at a show? Anything that this artist is doing in front of you is part of the show. So, what do you mean you don't understand why they were doing it? And uh what? She goes, I don't really understand why you are doing that. I'm not really, I'm not really sure why. And she questions, she's like, why? And she's not saying it in a way that's like, oh, I just want to understand, like, why, like, what's like the message of like what's behind. No, she's like doing it from a point of like, why, why did you do that? That's weird, and I'm not even kidding. She goes on to be like, it made me uncomfortable. I have never seen something like this before, and it made me so uncomfortable, and it made me uh, I just don't understand why you are doing it. And she keeps nailing it and nailing it on her. She's like, and it gets weird, and everybody is is like, you can feel the tension in the room. And I am like, This first of all, this is the worst time to say that because they asked if there's anyone who could say something about the show. Nobody said something, and you you were like, This is the perfect time for me to berate this woman in front of everyone. That was rude. Sorry, that was very rude. You can't do that. What do you mean? What do you mean? And then this woman answers her in the most uh in the most like, oh my god. After hearing what she said, I was like, you are wise and you are experienced. She goes, uh, she goes, I guess it's a question of taste, because this is music and this is a type of music, this is part of the music. And I am like, I am like in the audience, you can already tell how restless I am. I am kind of like trying to help her to answer. I am like, I am I'm in the audience, and I'm like, it's part of the show, it's part of like I'm like, yeah, it's part of the show. I'm trying to like get support from around me to be like, are you guys seeing what I'm seeing? Like, what does she mean? At this point, I am heated up. I am like, there is no way she just did that. And the way she was saying it, it's as if she's saying, like, it's like, it's almost like if you watch a movie and uh the character in the movie is like drinking coffee, and then at the end of the movie, you're like, I just don't understand why you drank coffee. I just don't understand why the character had to drink coffee. Uh, excuse me, dummy. Maybe because it's part of the show, it's part of the story. It's part of the story. And like, if you listen to those sounds well, like the woman who was screaming and the other sounds, you can see undertones of shame. It's like it's almost like the sounds that you'd make in your head if you were ashamed. You know, it's almost like if you were to make a TikTok or if you were to make a video about like being ashamed, the the sounds that you would use, these are the sounds that were being played along with the music. And this lady is like, I don't understand. Like, I oh God knows. God knows not to let such things happen to me. Because, huh, ni, that would that would have been the last show this woman would have gone to. At least in this moment in my life. Because like maybe if maybe if I get older, I will like maybe be more calm towards these situations. And you know what? Maybe I should be more calm, but oh no, I would, oh, she would she would remember me for the rest of her life, and I think she does. So, do you know what I do? I raise up my hand and I'm like, I have something to say about the show. And I was like, in my head, I was like, I am gonna say nice things about the show, and then at the end, I'm gonna throw it in that like I'm gonna throw in and reply to this woman who made that rude comment. And things took a turn. As soon as I started talking, I went straight. I went, I went straight into addressing what this woman said. I go, I have something to say about the show. I was like, this was a great show, I enjoyed, and back to this. It was very much like, do you remember the the VMAs when Nicki Minaj uh gave her speech and she was like, Thank you so and so, thank you, thank you, thank you. And she was like, she was like, back to this beep that had a lot to say about me the other day on the press. Miley, what's good? That was like that was the case. I was not as aggressive as like the way Nicki Minaj did it, but I was like, ah, and back to the woman who said that she didn't care. I was like, back to the woman who said that she didn't understand why the there were sounds in the music. And I was like, exactly as you said, it's a question of taste. Maybe she didn't just get it, and I was like, and this is not shade. I know I think I said this is not shade first. I was like, and this is not shade to anyone, mind you. I just turned to her, addressed it to her face, and I turned back to to the to the artist, and I'm like, by the way, this is not shade to anyone. And by the way, I get this from my mom. My mom is the woman who will stand up at the end of the show to say something about the show. If if if you want some remarks, my mom is the one. She will tell you, and it's always nice things. I always say nice things. This is the first time where I had to listen, I had to stand up for those artists. They are on a tour, and she just can't come here and just be rude just because she wants to be rude. No, no, not on my watch, not on my watch. I've had to end friendships because people were acting neutral in situations where there was clearly injustice and bad things happening, and so I'm like, this is no shade to anyone, and maybe she just didn't get it. And by the time I'm saying maybe she just didn't get it, I'm not looking at her, which makes matters worse. If you know anything about arguments or shade, this makes things worse. And I am like looking at like the the artist, and I'm like, maybe she didn't, maybe the artist and the director, and I'm like, maybe she just didn't get it. And everyone laughs, the artist and everyone is laughing, and I I couldn't even look at this woman because I'm like, I didn't want, I didn't know this was gonna be the reaction. I thought it was gonna be one of those uncomfortable moments where it's like, oh, she is getting red, but they all laughed, and I think she laughed too. She took it nice because I was not fighting. I was I'm just you know, I am explaining it to you because I want you to get into like the emotions of this whole story, but it was not as intense as it sounds. And then I go on to talk about the show. I'm like, you guys put so much effort, the translations, it means a lot. Like some people usually don't do this, and I love to show people that we notice their hard work, we notice the effort, we notice the details, and that's why I love talking to people who are passionate about their work. Because if you're talking about somebody who is passionate about their work, you can compliment them about their work. But if you're talking to somebody who is not passionate about their work, you have to compliment them. I know this. Like if somebody is passionate about their their song, their career, their artistry, whatever, I compliment their work. And it means a lot to them and it inspires them to keep moving. But then if somebody is not passionate, they're kind of like, listen, I'm just trying to get paid or I just work here. I compliment them. I'm like, wow, nice shoes. I love your outfit today. You look good. They enjoy that because it's about them. It's it's about something that they can connect to, they can connect to themselves. It's like sometimes I go to restaurants and I'm like, what kind of food do you serve here? And it's like, if somebody works there and they're like passionate about this restaurant or whatever, and they're getting paid well, they will tell you, they will get into the nitty gritty and be like, it's this, it's this, it's this. Our cheese is from here and this and that and that. But then if somebody's like, listen, I'm just trying to get paid, like, tell me your order and shut up. I don't know what kind of cuisine this is. Like, I have been in restaurants where I ask, like, which kind of cuisine is this? Because I love to know what is going on. And people are like, the girl, the girls are usually like, I have no idea. I just walk here, I just walk here. I'm just trying to get paid. And so I compliment them about their work because I can tell they're passionate and they're happy, and I say a lot, and like people are like laughing. Like the camera woman was sitting in front of me. She turns the camera to my face. By the way, love a camera. Listen, if there's one thing I'm gonna do is be in front of a camera, she turns the camera to me and I get to flowing. I am like flowing about this show and about the emotions, and I'm like, and at one point I referenced one of the stories which was like by the guy, and it was a funny story. Everybody laughed at it, and it was about the the shared living situation. I was like, I but about your story, it's made me grateful, it's made me grateful about my life and everything. And everyone is like, I'm like, I'm so grateful that didn't happen to me. And everyone is like laughing, and like it's this fun situation, as I always say. I used to wonder, I used to wonder, I was like, how comes everywhere I go is so much fun, like like most places are so much fun, most things I do, I do are fun, and I just realized not to toot my own horn, but I am the fun. I carry the fun with me, that's why it's fun everywhere I go, and like it's like you know, I I I know it meant a lot to them, to the artists, because we had like a discussion after that, and uh we we were talking. I told them my shame story, which I'd never told anyone, but I told them, and I told the woman, and she gave a very like artistic response to the whole situation. She was like, I think she's very brave for bringing that up. And I was like, uh, yeah, I know you're proud, I know you're happy that I stood up for you guys. Uh, but this is a very PR answer. It's a very PR answer to be like, she's so brave, she's so brave to like say that. And I'm like, um, she might be brave, but you know what else? She is rude and lacks taste. Anyways, not to, not to, not to say a lot about somebody not liking something. You are allowed not to like something, but there's a way to present it. And uh you better pray I am not in the room when you make that mistake, because I will jump up. Because guess what? There's people who have learned from that experience and they're like, you know what? I need to think about what I'm saying before I say it, especially if it's not very nice. And I just can't imagine what would have happened after that if nobody said anything. They would have probably felt so bad because it was already not a very good crowd. Speaking of not very good crowd, this is the second not good crowd I am attending. Like, I went to like a show like a few weeks ago. It was the best show. I had the best time I enjoyed. There was like music and it was comedy and all these things. We were like the cool spot. We were like at the front with my friends, and we were the ones who were like laughing, we were the ones who were like engaging. There were like some areas you could see like patches of people where they're like engaging. It was a good show, but like there were some people at the back, they were just like causing chaos. It was like they were like not even paying attention. And there were other people who were using phones. Oh my god. And there was one girl which I realized at the end that I know her. This is the show that I went to before the shame show. Like it was a couple weeks ago. No, last week, I think. Or the week. I don't know. I I don't know. But she was wearing, I'm not even kidding. She was wearing wired headphones. By the way, this is something I hate. Like, she was wearing wired headphones in a live performance. Like, it couldn't go more wrong. Using your phone, I remember sending a voice note to my friend. I was like, I will not be the guy that is using his phone on a live performance, on a concert, basically. I will not be the guy. I sent that voice note and like it was loud. And my friends could hear me, and they all laughed, and they were like, Oh, yeah, definitely. And I could tell other people are like, I some of my friends were like also putting their phones down to be like, oh, I also don't want to be that guy. And this girl, she was sitting at the front. And the crazy thing is that she had a friend who was doing this show. And I don't know, I don't know what's what was the thought process. Maybe the thought, because I've met some people, especially in such events where people feel like they need to be cool and people like dress in like a cool way. And I've met such people who think wired headphones are cool, which is true, they're very cool. I love them, and I love them so much because when you wear them, you don't feel like uh like your ears have been blocked by something. Like sometimes I wear airpods and I feel like, well, by the way, my airpods are not like from Apple, they're just they're just like some random airpods. And maybe that's why I feel that, but I've used people's airpods that are from Apple, and it's like the same thing. Uh it's in short, airpods in general. Sometimes I feel like they block my like I feel like my ear has been blocked by something. It's almost like when you're on a plane, the way your ears feel, I feel like that sometimes, especially if they have noise cancellation. And um, that's why I love wired headphones. And I have a lot of stories about wired headphones. I'll I'll tell them another day. And so she was wearing them, and I have met, I met another person the same day who was having conversations with people while having these headphones in his ears. And I was like, I know, I know it looks chic, but it doesn't look chic when you're talking to people. It doesn't like people need like this. Is the thing, like, this is why it's very important to go out there, explore things, and develop your taste. Because, like, if you get to a point where you just carry something as it is without like actually thinking if it's like functional, if it's like working at the time, it's like, listen, why are headphones look cool when you're walking down the street listening to music or when you're just you're being in your own bubble? They're not cool when you're in a live performance, you're sitting front row and you're wearing them. And I'm like, that is not cool. Like, you're here. The whole point of this event is to experience music through your ears. Why are you wearing wired headphones? Why are you here? And you have a friend performing, and you're like, it's so to me, it feels like it's not authentic. It's kind of like you're like doing it for the optics and not really because it's something you like. I don't know. Because it's like, what? What? It's crazy. And like this other guy we met him after the show, and we were talking to like the some of the comedians and stuff, and he was there and he was like wearing this, and I'm like, listen, you're talking to people, take those things off, unless, unless like you're in your own bubble and like you're with people and you're kind of like, I don't want to talk right now, and you put them on. But like, if you're actively in a conversation, like I am talking to you, but I'm not sure if you can hear me, and this is awkward, anyways. The girl did end up removing the headphones in the middle of the show, and I was like, Thank you. First of all, they they are not even like don't take this the wrong way. And I was like, they are not like it was one of those uh wired headphones that like they don't flaw well, they are not Apple, and they're like another company, so they don't like flaw well, they kind of like look like uh it's like they they don't lay on your body. I don't know if you're getting the the the picture, they the wire is like a little bit stiff, so it's like making shapes, and I'm like, I wish you could see because like you're doing all of this so you so it can look from across the room, like oh she has wired headphones and like she's cool, and like she no, like you're in a live performance. That's like the lamest thing somebody could do, anyways. I had to get that off my chest, and so that was there was a dead crowd there, and there was a dead crowd here, and I'm like the worst thing to happen to a dead crowd is that at the end of the show, somebody to give up, like give off like a mean comment, and so that was the experience, anyway. So I got back home and I watched this movie called Apex, it's a new movie on Netflix. Watch it. I I don't wanna spoil it for you, I don't wanna say a lot about the movie, but so Apex, it's by Charlie's Daron, Charlie's Daron and Tyrone Egerton. These are the main characters of this movie, and it's directed by Baltazar Cormacur. I hope I'm pronouncing that right, I'm probably butchering it. It's it's released in 2026, it's a survival action thriller, and it's like when you read the description on Lfix, it says adrenaline, and I'm I'm here to tell you I am here to be the evidence that you you you better not be holding a cup of hot tea while you're watching this movie. When they say adrenaline, they're not kidding. I all I can say without spoiling is that if I if I was in this movie, if I was Sasha, which is Charlie's Daron's character in this movie, I would have cried. I would have cried endlessly in that whole experience. Oh my god. Also, like in the beginning, I I don't want to tell you anything because this is the thing about spoiling. Let's say, for example, I tell you like at some point in the movie, this, this, this will happen. You won't have like the full suspense and experience of this film. You will have it, but then it will be attached to be like to like you waiting for that one thing to happen. Like you'll be waiting for that one thing to happen, that one thing that I've mentioned. Because I I have a friend of mine who for a long time was not affected by being spoiled things, but now is. We've been arguing for the last week where he's like, you're spoiling, and I'm like, I'm not spoiling, I'm just telling you what is already on the description. And every time I know, because I I've known this friend for a very long time, I know what floats he's bought, and so I know what things to say, what specific things, and I usually say them like just randomly. I'm not even kidding, I will say the random thing, and he's always like, I've always been looking forward to that moment this whole time. And I'm like, no, I want you to have the full experience and to have your own moments, and you better not be using your phone while you're watching that movie, or any movie, anyways, and so I had an experience. I had an experience in this movie. At some point in this movie, I was thinking and I was like, I wonder how they filmed this. I wonder how much training went into this. I wonder what Charles Daron and Tyron Egerton had to do for these roles. And Tyron Egerton's role, at some point, I was like, if he is like method, he needs to get this character out of his system immediately. Immediately. It was a spectacular performance. I recommend you watch that film. And if you've watched it, you know what I'm talking about. And so it was an experience. I ended up sleeping on the couch, and I didn't have like my blankets. I just had that this small blanket that I always have around the house because I'm always feeling cold. I'm not even kidding. I'm always feeling cold. And I slept. I mean, I did, I probably didn't sleep very well because I was like kind of like trying to be warm. I don't know why I didn't get up to get my blankets, but I didn't because like after that was kind of like a lot was going on. I was like, I just came from this show about shame, and I just I'm watching this like really like thriller movie. This is like very like suspense adrenaline film. And I was like, you know what? Let me go on Reddit and read some like shame stories about people. And I went on Reddit and I was reading them, and I was I was like, I prayed and I slept, and I was like, I hope I don't have bad dreams. Because if if this is gonna be one of those nights where I dream about everything in my day, it's gonna be a crazy dream. And I think I did dream some things, I'm not sure. Because I woke up and I was like, I think I dreamt something, but I don't really remember what it was. Sometimes you don't you know you dreamt, but you don't dream about your dreamt until like further in the day, and then you remember your dream. So the day is not done, we'll see. And that was my experience, and those are the things I wanted to share. And I hope you enjoyed this episode. And see you next Tuesday. Bye.